Baby Basics

This January, we welcomed the 5th baby into our family. We have a 13-year-old son, then our girls are 11, 7, and 5, so it’s been a while since we had a little boy!!! As I prepared for his arrival, I took a very minimal approach in the baby gear department. Since we are 150% sure he is our last, I didn’t want to spend a ton of money on clothes and baby items I knew he’d quickly outgrow. After 4 kids, I knew EXACTLY what we’d use and wouldn’t use for him, and even had a list of how many onesies, pants, socks, etc I wanted because we are limited on space in our home also.

Three years ago, we moved from a 2,200 square foot modern home in a neighborhood to a 1,400 square foot older country home on acreage to pursue our dreams of homesteading and sustainable living. So we drastically decluttered and streamlined our belongings. All three of our girls share a room, and the baby is in our bedroom with us, and he literally only has A CLOSET for all his stuff!!!!

There is NO ROOM for “fluff” around here… Meaning, our decor is scarce, and our kids don’t get just a TON of toys and random junk that takes up space. Everything in our home has to serve a purpose or it has to go. So for the baby, he only has a few things, and, guess what? He is PERFECTLY FINE!!! He doesn’t have a perfectly color coordinated gorgeous nursery with a changing table, hamper, and probably 75% of what “they” say you need off those registry lists. I even joke that all babies need is some diapers and a set of boobs and they’ll live ūüėā

Our top bare basic ESSENTIALS are:

‚ÄĘ Some comfortable, easy on/off, weather approriate clothes (currently OBSESSED with this little tank romper from Lavendersun — affordable, sooo soft, wonderful breathable fabric for our hot Southern Oregon summers, and a lil extra roomy in the bottom for cloth diapered bums!)

‚ÄĘ Carriers to baby wear — I’ve used the Moby and Ergo with the last 3 babies and LOVE them… The Moby is nice and snuggly for when they’re tiny (under 3 months), and the Ergo is great all the way up til toddlerhood! Much easier than lugging a huge carseat and/or stroller around!!!

‚ÄĘ Teething must haves — We love the Baltic Wonder amber teething necklace and our Copaiba Essential Oil which are both natural remedies that work WONDERS for littles cutting teeth!!

‚ÄĘ We also love our infant probiotics for a healthy belly, bumgenius pocket cloth diapers, and then we have a very small collection of teethers, toys, blankets, and our Young Living Seedlings bath supplies!

So, you can see it doesn’t take much for a happy, healthy baby! We save room, money, and are able to focus our spending on the quality few things that really make mommin’ easier!!!

What are your top baby must haves?

Empowered Cesarean

I realize my last blog post was about my c-section, and, well, that’s just where my mindset is since I had a baby in January ūüėā

April is C-Section Awareness Month, and since I’ve had five cesareans total, I figured I’d be a good candidate to touch on this topic. There is much controversy and negativity surrounding c-sections. Some will say it’s the “easy” way out, that cesarean mamas are “too posh to push,” or that we are not empowered or in control of the birth experience. I’ve heard it all, someone even once said to me, “Well since you’ve never ACTUALLY given birth….” (Like, um….. how did my kids get here then?!) ūüėú

Fifth pregnancy — strong, confident, and cool as a cucumber. Empowered, knowing my rights, calling the shots, armed with a plan and my surgical team on board. But, strength comes from struggles, confidence from being prepared. I’ve had both negative and positive birth experiences. Here is my story:

My first baby, I had just turned 21, and was pretty clueless about pregnancy and birth other than what I had read in the books. I assumed I’d labor and push my baby out just like the books said. My husband and I took birthing classes and even skipped the last one (which ironically was about c-sections) because we figured it wouldn’t even be an issue. I had my grandma’s wide childbearing hips, and just thought I’d pop the baby right out. Well, after a failed induction, failed epidural, fetal distress, my blood pressure dropping significantly, I was rushed into an emergency cesarean. I was scared, uninformed, had to be put under general anesthesia, didn’t see my baby boy until HOURS later, and ended up with severe postpartum PTSD and depression as a result.

When I got pregnant with #2, we knew we definitely wanted a different doctor and hospital. The doctor was great, and assured me we’d have a successful repeat cesarean. I was still pretty young, so hadn’t even researched my birth options much. So while this c-section went well medically, I still felt like it wasn’t quite right. I often felt robbed of the birth experience, but ultimately came to peace with things and enjoyed my life as a mama of two.

Suprise #3 came and once again, I was pressured into the repeat c-section. “You’ve already had 2, you just can’t birth naturally. It’s too risky.” Is what I was told. I went into labor 2 days prior to my c-section date, and hindsight being 20/20, she should have been the VBAC baby… BUT, we went to the hospital, and the on-call doctor went ahead and got a team prepped for my surgery. This was the one that broke me. Mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, for a long time…. I was taken into the operating room, spent 45 minutes in pain while a student anesthetist attempted over and over again to get my spinal in properly. I was crying, without my husband, and so scared and upset. The spinal didn’t even go in right, so in a matter of seconds, I went from completely coherent to the most drugged out I’ve ever been in my life. (I found out later they gave me Ketamine). I couldn’t make sense out of anything, it felt like I was floating through the cosmos, dying, but with voices around me. It was probably the most traumatic thing I’ve ever experienced. I didn’t see this baby until several hours later, either, and for a long time, I felt like I was in this fog of darkness. Depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and rage plagued me for quite some time following this, and I eventually ended up in counseling to help me sort through my mind and emotions. I healed, mind, body, and soul, but it took close to two years.

The fourth time around, I told my husband I was just going to birth the baby in my own damn bathtub. ūüėā But, after hearing horror stories, coupled with being “high risk,” of course we just scheduled another c-section. Each doctor appointment, I addressed a different concern, and of course, my doctor was well aware of my history. The c-section went well, no complications, I got to hold my baby girl in recovery, and we bonded right away. She was the baby, my last, and the one I’d hold and nurse for hours on end because we were done having kids.

After having #4, I launched a business, we moved, I launched another business, and we just got super busy with our lives. Kid’s sports, activities, business life, errands, and focusing on my health kept me busy around the clock. I was content with our troop of four and anytime someone asked about having any more kids, I’d LAUGH!!!

Well, almost a year ago now, I found out I was pregnant! I was a whirlwind of emotions in the beginning, not so sure about the whole idea of it… Eventually, after seeing and hearing that precious little heartbeat, my entire life turned upside down and I was beyond ecstatic to meet my little one. Then when we found out he was a little boy (after having 3 girls in a row), I was even more excited!!! I did a TON of research on my birth options, called soooo many different midwives, doulas, and even talked to other doctors. Since I was “branded” from my previous four c-sections, there was really no way around, but to have another one. I armed myself with loads of information, knowing my rights, and created a plan for My Gentle, Oily, C-Section. I was strong and confident going into the operating room, and the nurses even called me a “pro,” because I was the one calling the shots this time around. I had no problem saying, “No, that’s not happening” and expressing my wishes. I even requested my anesthesiologist (who was AMAZING, by the way), and spoke with her quite a bit before the surgery too. Delayed cord clamping, immediate skin-to-skin, hubby with me at all times, and use of my Essential Oils even in the operating room, were just a few of the things I did.

So, all that to say, that YES, it IS possible to have an empowered cesarean. My words of wisdom from going through all this for mothers everywhere:
While it may not be “nature’s way,” it is still a route that many babies are born. Yes, BORN. It doesn’t matter how they come out, if you carried a child in your womb for 9 months and it came out somehow, you BIRTHED that baby. And having a c-section makes you a badass warrior. You have to learn to breastfeed, wake up all hours of the night, deal with painful boobs, a sore back from the spinal, side effects from the medications, postpartum bleeding, and bond with a brand new little human ALL WHILE RECOVERING FROM MAJOR ABDOMINAL SURGERY. Don’t let ANYONE make you feel less because you chose a safe way for yourself and your baby’s entry into the world. Know your rights, make your plan, and ultimately, surrender. Know that we only have control over so much, even the mothers that pop their kids out with no meds, whilst squatting by some burning incense, aren’t entirely in control of anything either. ūüėČ

During Cesarean Awareness month, tell any c-section mothers you know how awesomely amazing they are. Because it is just as hard, if not harder, than the alternative.

To all cesarean mamas: I see you. I salute you. I AM you. I am 1 in 3.

~Sabrina Kate~

My Gentle, Oily C-Section

The words “natural” and “c-section” aren’t typically used in the same sentence, and especially are not combined to describe the surgical birth experience. However, being a holistic minded mama AND having my inevitable 5th cesarean, I was insistent on having as many things go as natural as possible despite birthing in an operating room.

Yes, you read that right, I now have had FIVE C-SECTIONS.

My first was an emergency, then I’ve had repeat scheduled since then (except for my 3rd, who decided to come a couple days early) I had done extensive research looking into my options for birth, but my doctor, husband, and myself felt it was best and that the pros outweighed the cons to go ahead with another c-section.

Since I had four, I knew what to expect, had a couple negative experiences, and knew exactly what I did and did not want for this final birth. My doctor has been my OB/GYN for over a decade, so I have a very established trust relationship with her. I talked with her at my appointments about my concerns, wishes, and the things I simply would not allow (NO students or interns was one of those). She was more than accommodating, making detailed notes in my chart and on my hospital paperwork.

So, how did I get as close to a “natural” and gentle cesarean as possible?

First and most importantly, my husband was not separated from me at any time. Not even the administration of the spinal (typically, the husband has to wait outside the room until that is done). He didn’t leave my operating room following the surgery, either; he stayed by my side the entire time providing support and comfort to me like only he can.

Next, I had very specific instructions: curtain was lowered so I could see baby come out, the cord clamp was delayed, and baby was placed to my chest within minutes of being born and remained there for several hours for bonding and getting nursing off to a good start.

Of course, I brought my essential oils and used the heck out of them!!!

‚ÄĘ Stress Away on the back of my neck and wrists before going into surgery to help calm my nerves.

‚ÄĘ Tranquil on the bottoms of my feet at night for help sleeping in a noisy hospital.

‚ÄĘ Lavender and Peace & Calming on my pillow or rubbed on wrists to help me relax.

Sense a theme here? Yeah, even though I knew what to expect I was still anxious, and then had a hard time managing my pain that first couple days which added to my . The emotional supportive oils were a lifesaver!!!!

‚ÄĘ Peppermint – speaking of lifesaver… Shortly after being laid down on the operating table, I started to feel woozy. Like BAD. Eyes watering, mouth watering, you know that feeling…. The nurse grabbed me a barf bag but I told her I didn’t want to throw up because there was nothing in my tummy!!! So then she put an alcohol swab under my nose thinking that would help, but it did nothing. Finally, the anesthesiologist (who was a total rock star, by the way) asked me if I liked peppermint. I was like, “YES!” She stuck a bottle of peppermint essential oil under my nose and within SECONDS, that icky feeling went away!

‚ÄĘ Gentle Baby is in one of my top ten favorite essential oil blends, and I’ve used it for the last few years even not having a baby! ūüėā Whenever baby is fussy, I open the bottle and hold it a few inches from his nose for a few seconds and it calms him most of the time! (Unless he wants food lol)

I also drank Ningxia Red daily, took Life 9 probiotics (to counteract the antibiotics given during surgery), kept a Lavender Lip Balm and Thieves Hand Purifier by my bedside, and made a blend of Frankincense and Myrrh Essential Oils to anoint our little guy right after he was born.

I loved having Young Living’s oils and products part of my csection and recovery, and can’t believe the difference it made!!!! Read more about YoungLiving oils and get some for yourself „ÄčHERE„Ää

Our sweet boy is already one month old, and breastfeeds like a champ, I am completely healed without any complications, not even abdominal muscle separation, and feel great!!

The Wellness Line

Last week in the Health and Wellness Challenge I’m hosting on facebook, I chatted live about the Wellness Line and what that means in regards to evaluating one’s state of health.

For simplicity, I address health in 3 dimensions – Body, Mind, and Soul. The body includes the physical being, all body systems (immune, respiratory, cardiovascular, muscular, nervous, etc); energy level, and is directly impacted by choices and habits of diet, exercise, sleep, drug/alcohol use, and hygiene.¬†The mind consists of mental and emotional health, social (interaction with others, relationships), and the mindset (negative or positive outlook). A strong sense of purpose, values, faith, peace, harmony, and contentment within one’s spiritual essence contribute to a healthy soul.¬† All of these aspects of health are¬†entwined and can affect each other in terms of your overall health. For instance, a physical¬†problem may be an underlying mental or emotional issue that is manifesting in the body. In fact, it’s been discovered that even some autoimmune disorders can be linked to chronic stress or anxiety. So it’s important to address ALL areas of health – body, mind, and soul when examining current health conditions, as well as being proactive in preventative care.

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The phrase “Living Above the Wellness Line” is used a lot by both myself and other professionals in my industry to encourage people to seek out and pursue a lifestyle of well-being in all aspects of life. As you can see in the graphic below, the differences in living above vs below the wellness line are drastic. Living above the wellness line is the ideal — this is feeling well physically (eating clean, exercising, sleeping, etc), maintaining a positive attitude and outlook, having an energetic¬†and zealous perspective, being supported and surrounded by healthy relationships and community, with a strong sense of purpose and direction in life. By contrast, living below the wellness line is just a lousy, miserable state of being, and unfortunately, how most people are living their lives on a daily basis. Headaches, digestive problems, chronic conditions, being overweight, depression, anxiety, anger, little to no connection with others through friendships and community, abusive or negligent relationships, and no sense of ambition or meaning to life or a calling are just a few manifestations of what living below the wellness line looks like in one’s life.

So where are you on this wellness line? Are you above it? Or are you below? Where is each part of your health on the wellness line — where is your body? Your mind? What about your soul? Take a quick inventory of your health and rate yourself (you can even do a 1-10 scale) on where every component of your health is on the wellness line. Be honest with yourself, and then think about what goals and steps you can take to improve the areas that need help the most. If you would like HELP, please do not hesitate to reach out to me, and we can discuss your health goals and how to achieve them! You can email sabrina.kate629@yahoo.com or drop me a line on facebook too!!!

 

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6 Ways to Amp Up Your Energy

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A frequent complaint from many people I talk to in regards to their health is a lack of energy. Exhaustion, fatigue, and feeling drained plague a huge percentage of the population. Poor diet, lack of exercise, sleep disturbances, nutrition deficiencies, hormonal imbalances, and some conditions can all contribute to low energy.

As a wife, mom of 4 (+ 6 months pregnant with #5), business owner, and just having a busy family & work schedule each week, energy can elude¬†me at times too!! I have really had to find ways to boost my energy NATURALLY without the caffeine jitters (plus that’s not so good for my adrenals or little guy in the belly) while supporting my body without stimulants or sugar…

 

  1. Get restful sleep ~¬†I know this seems like a no-brainer, but seriously, it is CRUCIAL to make sure you are getting adequate rest to operate at your optimum level during the day. If I don’t get a MINIMUM of 6 solid hours of sleep, I am pretty much in a slump the whole next day… If you don’t get a good night’s rest, sometimes a 30-minute power nap is refreshing and will perk you right up!
  2. Exercise ~ This can be a tricky one because most are thinking, “How can I exercise when I’m tired all the time?” It seems counterproductive when you are already wiped out, but even a quick 15-20 minute walk, jog, or on an¬†elliptical/treadmill will bring your heart rate up, release endorphins, and give you just the boost you might be missing.
  3. Essential Oils ~ There are some amazing oils and blends that are uplifting, invigorating, and refreshing to the senses. En-R-Gee, Peppermint, Motivation, Lemon, Orange, and Joy are all my favorites for putting a pep in my step, I diffuse them in my diffuser, or dilute with coconut oil and rub them on me!!!
  4. Diet ~ A diet full of processed foods, sugar, caffeine, and alcohol is a recipe for little to no energy. In fact, caffeine and sugar can make you feel LESS energetic!! (Ever had a sugar crash?) Whole, raw, fresh foods filled with iron (garbanzo beans, lentils, olives, spinach, swiss chard); B vitamins (almonds, eggs, salmon, avocados, broccoli, sweet potatoes); magnesium (black beans, cashews, quinoa); vitamin C (bell peppers, cauliflower, oranges, strawberries); and calcium (collard greens, turnip greens, yogurt) supply your body with vitamins and minerals to stay energized all day long.
  5. Supplements ~ Again, Young Living has us covered in this area too!!! NingXia Red, NingXia Nitro, Multi-Greens, and Super B tablets are wonderful for supporting natural energy levels, mental alertness, and clarity.  I can really tell the difference on days that I have not taken my supplements, or when I (heaven forbid) run out of them!
  6. Music ~ Turn up the beat! Sometimes, when I’m feeling just “in a funk,” and I know I’m sleeping, eating, and exercising well, AND I’ve oiled up and taken all my supplements, music helps put me in a good mood and gets me moving! Find whatever you like and suits your tastes. My “get up and go” music is usually Beyonce or Rhianna, but my husband prefers AC/DC¬†

 

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*When I’ve got “Diva is a female version of a hustler” blaring in my ears, I can’t help but MOVE IT!!!!* ūüėČ

Closing a Door

*Heavy sigh* I’ve written and rewritten this post a couple times now… The first time it was a 4¬†page document, and I went into great detail about how I was wronged by someone, how I felt totally taken advantage of, how I allowed a wolf in sheep’s clothing to override my intuition for the 2nd time in our 6 year “friendship,” and why I felt justified and right in my mind… ¬†I have grown a lot in the last few years, and have learned that taking the high road, not giving the attention to those toxic narcissistic people that they so desperately desire, letting things go, and moving forward is the best approach for dealing with negative people and situations. There is nothing I can say here that will change anyone’s mind, or justify my side of things because all that does is bring me down to their level. I wrote that looooong document to help me process the pain and try to gain a better understanding of myself, the other person, and the entire situation. As I re-read it, I asked myself, “How can I grow?” “What can I learn from this?” Because even the most difficult, stressful situations, and manipulative, fake, and toxic people have lessons to teach us if we just take the time to process it and look at it from ALL angles… Understanding where the other person is coming from, that a childhood trauma emotionally stunted them, that they are not really living in absolute authenticity and their truth, and that jealousy is one hell of a monster, all of these things while they don’t excuse the behavior, give us compassion for others even in the midst of the turmoil they cause.

This year has been AMAZING so far, I have completed my entire list of goals for the year in two months, my personal, family, and business life are blooming beautifully, but as you know, all that glitters isn’t gold… I know that with great success comes great trials and that no matter how awesome everything is going, there WILL be inevitable heartbreak and closed doors. When you encounter a closing door, know that it is because you are worth SO¬†much MORE, that there IS something better coming.. The doors that open will lead you on the right path, and those things that come to an end are NOT right for your journey on this thing called life…

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I don’t pretend to have all the answers, or be a “lifestyle expert,” because honestly most days I don’t feel like I quite have my stuff together haha I can only speak from the heart, from my experiences, and hope that it will inspire and help others… I’ve said before that I don’t claim to be anything I’m not… I’m sarcastic, blunt, and can be very fierce and protective if provoked, but I also LOVE my family and close circle of people I’ve been blessed with, I work my ass off for my family, career/passion, and have no problem being ME in all my flaws, hilarity, and weirdness! I am at peace with who I am because I have fought all my demons, healed from past traumas, and just live each day with authenticity and don’t give a crap anymore if people like me or not!!

When others¬†talk negatively¬†about you, it’s a reflection of THEMSELVES. So over the last couple months, I’ve been¬†called loud, arrogant, slick, conniving, malicious, and even EVIL (hahaha), and yes at first, it stings, but ultimately it’s that person’s issues within themselves. THEY are the ones that are all those things but are too damn blinded to see it, so they try to deflect and project it onto others around them. ¬†I’m always looking inward to maintain self-responsibility, acknowledging when I screw up, recognizing my shortcomings and trying my best to grow, move forward, make amends where they need to be made. Once you’ve come to peace with yourself, your flaws, and who you truly are, no one can use that against you, and when people say things about you, it just rolls off like water off a duck’s feathers, because you know what you are and what you are not.
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So, the major lessons here —

#1. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS trust your instincts… If someone or something feels “off” DO NOT ignore that!!!! Our bodies and souls pick up on vibes unrecognizable sometimes by other people, and they may even make us feel weird or wrong for having these “hunches.” But, having to learn this lesson the hard and painful way MORE than once, I can tell you, that these are NEVER wrong.. I had this person pinned 4 years ago for what she truly was, but let others supersede my intuition which was a HUGE mistake… LISTEN to that still small voice and feelings that tell you when something’s not quite right.¬†

#2. When a door closes, WALK AWAY. Don’t sit there banging on it, trying to pry the handle open, driving yourself nuts wondering why the door is closed. Pick yourself up, gather your dignity, leave it closed, and move on with your life. There are¬†SO many better things coming your way, I promise! :*¬†

#3. I will reiterate this. OTHER PEOPLE DO NOT DICTATE YOUR WORTH!!!!!!! Let those haters hate, say whatever they want about you, but know that your beauty, your value, and who you are deep in your soul is not based upon anyone else’s opinions. The whole world could be against me, and I will still know who I am, continue to do what I do, and live my life…¬†

This last few weeks have been difficult, to say the least, but through these trials, I always come out stronger and wiser. Some may say they wish nothing bad would ever happen, but I’ve learned that there is beauty in darkness, there are lessons in hardships, and growth in pain. I write to heal, I write to process, and I write to hopefully inspire… Like I said, I’m no life guru, but if my experiences and my¬†lessons¬†of life help just ONE person, then it’s worth it. Close doors, heal, move forward, and do no harm, but also take no shit!!! ‚̧

~SK

Learning to Love Yourself: My Story

This week¬†I am hosting an online event on learning to love yourself, all about self-love, self-care, the importance of nurturing the relationship with yourself, along with affirmations, tips, and tools for¬†acceptance, appreciation, and LOVE for who you TRULY are in your very SOUL….

It’s so funny¬†to me to think I am now teaching a class on self love because I haven’t always have a healthy relationship with myself, in fact, it was quite the opposite for a LONG time. When I was 7, I injured my front permanent teeth and ended up losing one.. Over the course of the next few years, not only did I suffer tremendous physical pain from the many procedures & surgeries, but also emotional damage because kids were RUTHLESS and made horribly mean comments about my teeth… Puberty wasn’t exactly kind to me either ¬†I had terrible acne, and¬†developed quickly to a size D bra by age 13 ¬†It was such an awkward combination of¬†feeling ugly (I got called “pizza face” on the daily), and¬†getting¬†unwanted sexual attention by not only boys my age, but older men too.¬†By high school, I was THAT girl no one liked, not many talked to, and that walked alone most of the time. Except for the horny teen boys that frequently tried to grope me, I was assaulted a couple times, and the sexual innuendo and comments came at me from all directions! (I was filing my first sexual assault case at age 14)… The girls may have been even worse… ¬†Instead of rallying around me, being my friend, and protecting me¬†like a girl gang should, they ignored¬†me except to call me horrible names and make up stories about me just because I had big boobs &¬†butt and got more male attention.. I felt so alone and awful¬†about myself.. What was so wrong with me and why did no one like me? Surely it wasn’t my boobs, butt, or zits that made me so unlikable? What was so different and screwed up about ME that no one even wanted to talk to me?¬†My self esteem was pretty much in the toilet by the time I started dating, so of course any positive attention from males was good attention in my mind. My first couple boyfriends were very narcissistic, toxic individuals, that took total advantage of me, treated me badly and made me feel even worse about myself… One guy was a serial cheater & liar, one was very verbally abusive, and one¬†guy even had the balls to sit there and tell me all of the things I should have fixed with cosmetic surgery on my body from head to toe!!!

After I got married and had my first baby, my self image and self worth continued to spiral downward… I was incredibly depressed, popping anti-depressants and pain pills just to get through the days, while eating¬†junk food and sleeping to comfort myself and escape reality. ¬†My pregnancies brought hormonal¬†imbalances, my weight skyrocketed at almost 200 lbs, back down to the 150s, then back up again, all while suffering from debilitating migraines, anxiety, depression, insomnia, feeling worthless, fat, ugly, and most days just thinking of ways¬†to end my own life. I can’t even count the number of nights I laid on the bathroom floor with either a bottle of pills, booze, a gun, or any combo of the 3 ready to just be done. I couldn’t understand why I felt this way despite having a husband that loved me and beautiful healthy kids.. Most would have seen my life as that “picket fence” type life, yet I could not overcome this cloud of depression and misery. A lot of days I “faked it” — had to feign happiness and love because I was buried underneath so much pain.

In 2011, I hit rock bottom and will spare the horrible details as what I refer to now as “the pit,” but that was the time in my life I felt I could go no lower… Years and years of mental anguish all came crashing down, and while it hurt worse than anything I’ve ever experienced, it was ultimately for my good.¬† I had a few more rough spots after that, but finally turned a corner in my life and began to “wake up,” and started seeing things a lot more clearly, and learning about myself more.

My path to awakening and healing has been a slow, steady, but amazing journey.¬†A wonderful, supportive counselor, spouse, family, and few very close knit friends I’ve been blessed with surrounded me with love and acceptance, helping this process. It took a while, but I found my wonderland under all the layers¬†of other people’s toxic bullshit mixed in with my own insecurities and past traumas, and have truly come to know and love myself for who I am deep in my core being. Almost 3 years ago, I did a photo shoot project for myself, as a birthday gift of self love and acceptance for what I’d survived through and who I was becoming (ME, I was becoming more ME). It was entitled, “Be Bravely YOU,” and it really broke me out of the molds of what other’s thought I should or should not be, as well as showing me my true beauty, inside and out. I had people say rude things to me regarding the photos from the shoot (it was boudoir style, so many shots were in my undies), and some say “rock it, hot mama!” but¬†for the first time in my life, I didn’t CARE… I was able¬†to block out the negative and rude people, knowing they only viewed me through the lens of whatever issues they had going on. Maybe they were jealous, maybe they were dealing with their own self esteem and body image issues.. But from that point forward, I vowed no matter what I would just be ME in all my muchness, regardless of what people had to say or think and had finally learned to love myself.

I’m still frequently the target of some people’s negativity and rude behavior, but I’ve gotten to the point where now I don’t engage it. Like at all. Someone says something rude to me, makes a nasty remark, scoffs, or anything else giving a negative vibe, I instantly push it away. (In my mind I envision myself physically pushing my arm straight out and pulsing a light from it to get the negative energy away from me. Nerdy, I know lol — like the force hahaha) ¬†… Anyways, the bottom line is this. I have been through hell and back, have had my name dragged through all kinds of dirt, been criticized, judged, hated, mocked, beat, raped and threatened, and yet here I still stand. Why? How? Well first of all, because I’ve already had all this done and said to me, so there ain’t nothing new anyone is going to come up with! AND Because OTHER PEOPLE do not define or dictate my beauty, my life, my worth in ANY way, shape or form!!!! I know who and what I am —> down to earth, kind to most people, dorky & funny¬†as heck, loving, nurturing, hard-working, mind my own damn business, and do my best to educate, inspire, and uplift people around me, and don’t give a flying crap what anyone thinks of my boobs or zits! I know not everyone is going to like me, and I’m not everyone’s cup of tea (but¬†I’m someone’s shot of whiskey) and I am finally okay with that, knowing myself, loving myself, and nurturing that space within my soul…

¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†Once you love yourself, you are truly INVINCIBLE!!! Be Bravely… YOU!!!!!!! ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ~Sabrina Kate¬†

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Be the BOSS of 2017!

Have you made 2017 YOURS yet? It’s NOT too late, TODAY is the day to focus on self-care, mindset, diet & lifestyle improvements for mind, body, and soul and be the BOSS of this year!!

Are you overweight and sick, and depressed from being overweight and sick? So you eat to comfort yourself, gain more weight, and get even more depressed? WE GET IT. WE’VE BEEN THERE.

Have you ever gone on a diet? Did it work? Nope? Didn’t think so!! ūüėČ WE’VE TRIED ‘EM ALL!

Debbie and Sabrina are a mother-daughter wellness advocate team, clean eating & paleo gurus, and ready to help YOU take the steps to a new lifestyle and straight BOSS 2017! A combined 125 pounds lost, overcoming addictions, depression, and many health problems; a decade of working in health industries, they bring their experience and expertise in diet, fitness, nutrition and more!! They will be sharing their stories & struggles, and motivation & HOPE for changing your life!

Debbie is the director of a pregnancy crisis center and helps young mothers & families in dire circumstances. She offers 6 years of study in all things pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, babies, and beyond… She teaches parenting classes, speaks at local events, and volunteers as a birth coach. Debbie is a former “serial dieter” and started on her journey to wellness in 2014. (She’ll tell you WHY all the fad diets DON’T work!) Her health drastically improved and she lost 55 pounds in addition to overcoming chronic health problems just by changing her lifestyle¬†habits! This mom of 2 and grandma of 4 is RADIANT¬†and PASSIONATE¬†about serving people — helping them live in complete wellness and abundance!!!

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Sabrina is the CEO & Executive Pastry Chef of Ambrosia Natural Bakery. She specializes in gluten-free, vegan, paleo & food allergy-friendly baking and teaches specialty baking classes. Sabrina has studied health since 2001 at the young age of 17, when she started pursuing a career in medicine; nursing and nutritional science were her areas of study in college and she continues her education in natural wellness with webinars, classes, and reading every piece of literature on the subject she can get her hands on! Sabrina suffered from debilitating migraines and a plethora of health issues before changing her entire lifestyle; she lost 70 lbs, ditched the drugstore, and has since helped many people in their own journeys to health. Her passion is MIND-BODY-SOUL wellness. She takes a holistic approach in everything, even in her career, offering health-conscious products and services…

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Join this dynamic duo ready to lead YOU to freedom and wellness in an exclusive intensive group starting SOON!!! Daily motivation and tips, detailed menu plans & recipes, and all the tricks, tools, and secrets you will need to get drop some weight, gain more energy, sleep better, feel better about yourself, and make this YOUR year!!!!

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You can PM on facebook — facebook.com/moonchildbeautywellness, or email sabrina.kate629@yahoo.com for more info on this upcoming group, and to answer any questions you may have!!!

 

10 Tips for Restful Sleep

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Benefits of Sleep

Repairs your body, builds immune system, reduces stress, improves memory, and reduces risks of diseases (cardiovascular & diabetes, & more). Proper sleep gives you energy, helps you accomplish more, be more creative, and keeps you well!

 

10 Tips for getting restful sleep

  1. Avoid stimulants, ie. caffeine, nicotine, alcohol 3-6 hrs before bed.
  2. Keep your room dark, cool, quiet… Comfy bed & pillows a PLUS! Keep kids & pets OUT!! Also, no computers, TV’s, tablets, phones, etc, and don’t bring your work to bed either!! Keep the mental association between BED = SLEEP.
  3. Before bed soothing routine.. An hour or so before bed, start with a bath, reading, journaling, soft music, and dim lights. Avoid work and stressful situations before bed. Stress releases cortisol which makes you alert.
  4. Use specific essential oils for your evening routine so your brain associates them with sleep. ¬†Some of my favorites are Young Living’s Lavender, Vetiver, Tranquil Roll-On, Peace & Calming, and SleepyIze for the kids (knocks them right out)!!
  5. Don’t watch the clock!! If it takes longer than 20-30 mins to fall asleep, get up, try some light reading, or listening to mellow music with lights dimmed (bright lights stimulate).
  6. Nap before 5pm or not at all!
  7. Avoid late night snacking or a late dinner… Finish dinner several hours before bed, and if you are hungry before bed, eat something light, like veggies or nuts.. (My personal favorites are carrot sticks or almonds)
  8. Time your water just right — hydrate throughout the day, and only drink a little bit of water about an hour before bed.
  9. Exercise no more than 3 hours before bed. Exercise releases cortisol, which again, like stress, can make you alert.
  10. Plan for the next day and morning. Getting clothes, lunches, the coffee pot, and anything else you need in the morning all ready before you go to bed will help your mornings go a little smoother, and you’ll rest easier knowing things are in order!!

What are some ways you could improve your bedtime routine? Comment below to chime in!

 

 

 

Journaling Your Journey

Journaling YOUR journey for health and wellness is SO important and¬†gives you encouragement, motivation, and even provides a record for your health care provider if need be. It helps you eat mindfully, track your progress, and gives you the nitty gritty reality of how much you eat and what you eat. You can see what you’re lacking in, and the areas that need improvement the most, and shows you the connection between your emotions and the food you eat.¬† You will begin to see patterns, habits, and mind/body/soul connection as you progress in your journaling.

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Tips for your journal:

  1. Use a notebook or online myfooddiary.com
  2. Either journal food throughout the day, or in the evening.
  3. Record EVERYTHING you eat & drink
    — types of foods
    — even snacks, beverages, and cheats!! (you are less likely to cheat if you have to write it down)
    — portion sizes (doesn’t have to be exact measurements)
  4. Record your physical & emotional response to what you ate
    — were you satisfied or guilty?
    — were you stressed & in a hurry or calm & enjoyed your meal?
    — were you distracted doing another activity while eating?
  5. Review your journal for clues about your current habits & health situation
    — Are you really hungry when you eat? Or bored? Stressed? Sad?
    — Look at your portions, look for your weak areas
    — Take note of your eating habits, do you eat lightly throughout the day and indulge in the evening? Try for well balanced meals throughout the day.